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i know they are that's the point
but
but i want her to be safe
i always did that's why i did what i did
but
but i want her to be safe
i always did that's why i did what i did
I understand that. Believe me, I'm familiar with the feeling. On the other hand, I'm also familiar with what too much of that can do to a relationship. Making that decision for her? Not your call, man. She's no more a kid than you are.
Pulling back is saying that you're an asshole and you'll never change and she's better off without you. That's one way to keep her safe, sure. But it means you don't believe she knows what's best for her, that she's not strong enough to know her own mind.
Here's a crazy alternative: Believe in her, and work on changing that shit about yourself so she won't be unsafe around you.
Pulling back is saying that you're an asshole and you'll never change and she's better off without you. That's one way to keep her safe, sure. But it means you don't believe she knows what's best for her, that she's not strong enough to know her own mind.
Here's a crazy alternative: Believe in her, and work on changing that shit about yourself so she won't be unsafe around you.
i'm trying
i'm trying to change but i can still feel the same kinds of patterns running through my head. i never claimed to be a good person. even if i didn't kill anyone i was willing to murder.i was willing to sacrifice ea lot of people just to keep her safe. three and a half billion people - better than the original plan, still too many.
i don't want to lose her. i don't want to hurt her. i'm
i'm afraid. what if i hurt her again? when the world starts crashing down how will i be sure that what i choose will be different this time? id on't know if i can be strong enough to change especially since i don't know how.
i'm trying to change but i can still feel the same kinds of patterns running through my head. i never claimed to be a good person. even if i didn't kill anyone i was willing to murder.i was willing to sacrifice ea lot of people just to keep her safe. three and a half billion people - better than the original plan, still too many.
i don't want to lose her. i don't want to hurt her. i'm
i'm afraid. what if i hurt her again? when the world starts crashing down how will i be sure that what i choose will be different this time? id on't know if i can be strong enough to change especially since i don't know how.
Maybe think of it this way instead.
You're going to hurt her. Not because you're bad, not because you can't control yourself, but because that's how humans are. We hurt each other whether we mean to or not. The important thing is how we deal with that truth.
Trying to change the way you think is probably too hard. I mean, you could try, but God knows I never heard of anyone who made any headway with it. What you can do, though, is notice when you're thinking that way and think to yourself, okay, is that actually what I want to do?
You could even let her know that's what's going on with you, when it's happening. She's familiar enough with it, it seems, and she'll know how to protect herself.
And of course when you do hurt her, you apologize and learn from it.
You're going to hurt her. Not because you're bad, not because you can't control yourself, but because that's how humans are. We hurt each other whether we mean to or not. The important thing is how we deal with that truth.
Trying to change the way you think is probably too hard. I mean, you could try, but God knows I never heard of anyone who made any headway with it. What you can do, though, is notice when you're thinking that way and think to yourself, okay, is that actually what I want to do?
You could even let her know that's what's going on with you, when it's happening. She's familiar enough with it, it seems, and she'll know how to protect herself.
And of course when you do hurt her, you apologize and learn from it.
That's all anybody could ask.
For what it's worth, I haven't had these exact problems myself. But if I'd communicated better with the people who were important to me, and if they'd done the same instead of locking into their own heads, things could have gone a lot better.
For what it's worth, I haven't had these exact problems myself. But if I'd communicated better with the people who were important to me, and if they'd done the same instead of locking into their own heads, things could have gone a lot better.
my whole life it's been
'it doesn't matter what you feel as long as things get done' 'feelings are useless, the only thing that matters are results'
so i don't really know how to even start talking about it. it's hard to explain to people not from my world. i hid so much from her, from the others, because i wanted to look like i was a normal person, not 'prince kureshima'.
so it's hard to stop hiding. to say what i feel. i feel like i don't have the words.
'it doesn't matter what you feel as long as things get done' 'feelings are useless, the only thing that matters are results'
so i don't really know how to even start talking about it. it's hard to explain to people not from my world. i hid so much from her, from the others, because i wanted to look like i was a normal person, not 'prince kureshima'.
so it's hard to stop hiding. to say what i feel. i feel like i don't have the words.
If people were seriously calling you 'Prince Kureshima,' no wonder you're so screwed up now.
[AGENT NEW YORK: THE SOUL OF TACT.]
Hey. It'll be okay, all right, Micchy? No one's born knowing how to do this stuff, we're all learning it as we go. And the people who know you, they also know this about you. You're managing well enough with me, aren't you?
[AGENT NEW YORK: THE SOUL OF TACT.]
Hey. It'll be okay, all right, Micchy? No one's born knowing how to do this stuff, we're all learning it as we go. And the people who know you, they also know this about you. You're managing well enough with me, aren't you?
not to my face. but i know it was a nickname that was floating around.
... yeah i guess. it's still hard.
... yeah i guess. it's still hard.
Good, 'cause I got more where that came from.
Look. As far as I'm concerned, man, it's clear you're trying to do better. I'm not gonna tell you it's enough just to try; I also got taught most my life that results matter. But, hey. It's trying that gets results, you know? And Mai seems like a sweet, understanding kid.
Look. As far as I'm concerned, man, it's clear you're trying to do better. I'm not gonna tell you it's enough just to try; I also got taught most my life that results matter. But, hey. It's trying that gets results, you know? And Mai seems like a sweet, understanding kid.
yeah me too
and she is. too nice for her own good a lot of the time. but she's
strong
i guess? in her own way. and i know that. she never really freaked out all that much. she didn't fight but she still kept standing.
it's just hard to not want to... protect someone like that. i can't sort out my feeling sabout her, even now. but i'm not good for her. not like that.
but i'm doing what i can to try to not... go off the deep end again.
and she is. too nice for her own good a lot of the time. but she's
strong
i guess? in her own way. and i know that. she never really freaked out all that much. she didn't fight but she still kept standing.
it's just hard to not want to... protect someone like that. i can't sort out my feeling sabout her, even now. but i'm not good for her. not like that.
but i'm doing what i can to try to not... go off the deep end again.
Hey, I'm not saying don't protect her. That's what caring about people's all about, sometimes, especially for fighters. I'm just saying...find ways to watch over her that let you believe in her, too. That let you believe in whatever it is she sees in you.
Easier said than done, I know.
Easier said than done, I know.
Most good things do. But it's not like it's all on you. Relationship's something you work on together, by definition.
Bribery doesn't feel right, but if it gets them to listen I've got no other choice.
What, your parents never bribe you to behave at a restaurant? Perfectly ethical child-rearing maneuver.
Just checking in on things. How are you doing?
Also uh. I never thanked you for... that time. So thanks.
Also uh. I never thanked you for... that time. So thanks.
I'm all right. Work at the stadium's disrupted for the time being, but that gives me time to help out around town, so it works out.
Also, don't worry about it. You been doing okay?
Also, don't worry about it. You been doing okay?
Yeah, the circus isn't running right now either while we try to take care of this.
I've been... okay. I just don't talk about that kind of thing. Every time I have people get sort of weird about it.
I've been... okay. I just don't talk about that kind of thing. Every time I have people get sort of weird about it.
Weird how? I've got to know, I have a reputation for complete non-weirdness to uphold, kiddo.
Like... they get really weirdly concerned whenever I talk about how I grew up. I had a place to live. That's more than some people can say. They didn't want me there, but they didn't kick me out.
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