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"York here. I'm probably busy getting my ass handed to me by adorable woodland creatures, but I'll get back to you as soon as I can. Over and out."

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hashtagafreakingghost

Oh. That would make a lot of sense.
Sorry if that was an awkward question I just was curious
on how that would work I mean.

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ratherbelocky

On how what specifically would work?

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hashtagafreakingghost

Partners
plural.

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ratherbelocky

I'm gonna guess you don't just mean things like "who gets to sit in the middle during movies" or "what size bed do you have to buy."

[Or the logistics of what they get up to in that bed, but he doesn't want to tease her too much.]

It's not all that different from having one significant long-term partner, in my opinion. You have to make sure you spread the love equally, but that's true of any relationship. You've had close friends growing up, right?

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hashtagafreakingghost

Yes, I have, but it can't just be that simple, right? Being in a committed relationship with someone has its own nuances, I would assume.
Don't you get jealous or worry about if things fall apart?

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ratherbelocky

The first one not so much. I mean, maybe it helps personally that I'm sort of the "middle," so to speak? Carolina and I went steady once before, and North - well. He didn't want to intrude. But I love 'em both, always have, and seeing that they can make each other as happy as they make me? That's pretty great. Wouldn't trade that for my other eye back.

Things falling apart, though...sometimes, yeah. But that's less because of the threesome thing than because things've fallen apart on me before, and that's got less to do with who or how many are involved than just. Communication, I guess. Trust. And we've all grown a lot since the last time we saw one another back home.

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hashtagafreakingghost

Trust and growth, that's understandable.
If you're the "middle," does that mean that they aren't dating each other? Is that generally how it works?
I'm sorry for all the questions, and if I'm intruding! I simply haven't known anyone who has been in a relationship with more than one person, and generally
Well, I'm a college girl, any three-person-encounters I've heard of haven't been of the committed sort.

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ratherbelocky

Haha, hey, I don't mind. I've had enough of those less committed encounters myself to know where you're coming from.
But anyway, no, Carolina and North are dating. Or they are now, anyway. I think it took them both some getting used to, 'cause North, uh. Doesn't normally swing Carolina's way. But yeah, this whole thing started because they were both interested in me, and I decided, hell, here we are, finally together again in some crazy magical cartoon world. Why shouldn't we at least give ourselves a try?
I'm not sure how these sorts of things generally work. I'd guess it depends on the people involved and if they're really committed to a three-man tag team through life or have agreed on a more open relationship.

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hashtagafreakingghost

That's a lot to be open about...
I don't know if I could ever do something like that, but I'm glad it's working out. You and North are good guys, you deserve to be happy.
I do have to say, it sounds like that kind of relationship would make the lives of some of my friends a LOT easier. Less relationship drama.

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ratherbelocky

Ah, ye olde teenage love triangle? Guess some things never change.

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hashtagafreakingghost

It was some sort of polygon, that's for sure.
You don't want to hear about all of that, though, and I don't want to get into it.
I should be going, like I mentioned, but thank you, York. For all of this so far.