You're going to hurt her. Not because you're bad, not because you can't control yourself, but because that's how humans are. We hurt each other whether we mean to or not. The important thing is how we deal with that truth.
Trying to change the way you think is probably too hard. I mean, you could try, but God knows I never heard of anyone who made any headway with it. What you can do, though, is notice when you're thinking that way and think to yourself, okay, is that actually what I want to do?
You could even let her know that's what's going on with you, when it's happening. She's familiar enough with it, it seems, and she'll know how to protect herself.
And of course when you do hurt her, you apologize and learn from it.
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You're going to hurt her. Not because you're bad, not because you can't control yourself, but because that's how humans are. We hurt each other whether we mean to or not. The important thing is how we deal with that truth.
Trying to change the way you think is probably too hard. I mean, you could try, but God knows I never heard of anyone who made any headway with it. What you can do, though, is notice when you're thinking that way and think to yourself, okay, is that actually what I want to do?
You could even let her know that's what's going on with you, when it's happening. She's familiar enough with it, it seems, and she'll know how to protect herself.
And of course when you do hurt her, you apologize and learn from it.