I understand that. Believe me, I'm familiar with the feeling. On the other hand, I'm also familiar with what too much of that can do to a relationship. Making that decision for her? Not your call, man. She's no more a kid than you are.
Pulling back is saying that you're an asshole and you'll never change and she's better off without you. That's one way to keep her safe, sure. But it means you don't believe she knows what's best for her, that she's not strong enough to know her own mind.
Here's a crazy alternative: Believe in her, and work on changing that shit about yourself so she won't be unsafe around you.
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Date: 2016-05-11 12:51 pm (UTC)Pulling back is saying that you're an asshole and you'll never change and she's better off without you. That's one way to keep her safe, sure. But it means you don't believe she knows what's best for her, that she's not strong enough to know her own mind.
Here's a crazy alternative: Believe in her, and work on changing that shit about yourself so she won't be unsafe around you.