.006 Δ ["Anonymous" Text]
Mar. 19th, 2016 07:28 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ratherbelocky[Or, well, actually, this text isn't anonymous. It's simply that the ID number it displays doesn't match anything in anyone's previous contacts--as if someone's perhaps got his meddlesome paws on a brand new 'Gear.]
So there's a thing I've noticed, in the months I've been here. These anonymous posts, the ones asking for advice? They get a lot of answers. Seems we've got a lot of folks willing to help out around here, or at least to talk and commiserate, but it always seems to be a one-off deal; the person who's anonymous, most of us don't get to hear from them again, see how they're doing, and if we're anonymous ourselves, they can't contact us, either. It's like dancing some kind of intimate foxtrot and then never seeing your partner again.
But I found out something interesting. If you go to any Pokémon Center or PokéMart and tell them your Gear's broken or missing, they'll just hand you a new one free of charge. And if you happened to be lying, well. Then you've got an extra Gear unconnected to your main one.
What I'm saying is, there's an easy way to maintain privacy and anonymity on both ends while still checking in with someone you've spoken with before. Obviously, this is great to know for prank calls - and you're all welcome in advance for the April Fools idea - but I'd like to pose another option to those guys who want to help:
What if there were some kind of system in place for people to just talk about what's eating them multiple times with the same person, without ever having to know who's on the other line?
Now, I'm by no means a professional - not in this field, anyway. I'm not qualified to be a therapist and I haven't yet heard of anyone here who is. That's not what I'm suggesting we do here. But there are people willing to just listen, and to share their own experiences without judging, and that can be real useful to people who are working through tough things.
Here's how I'm imagining it'll work.
1. Folks who are interested in doing the listening contact me here by filling out the form at the bottom of this post. I vet them, and if it seems like it'll work out, then they grab an extra Gear, send me the number, and come up with their own codename.
2. I make a list of who's available and their numbers.
3. People looking to be listened to without exposing themselves, they contact me anonymously, and I'll redirect them to one of the folks on the list. After that first contact, they can just get to their listener directly without going through me as a middleman.
4. Conversation happens, everybody profits.
"But, mysterious and probably handsome anon," I hear you ask, "why do the people interested in helping have to out themselves to you? Who are YOU, even, to ask that and put yourself in charge of this whole thing?" And my answer is, there's got to be some accountability here when things this heavy and private are on the table, and I'm willing to be that guy. I'm also happy to reveal my identity privately to anyone who asks; I'm only maintaining anonymity here for those who don't want to know who they're talking to, for whom talking is easier like that.
Anyway. If listening to other people's problems sounds like your calling, I'd like you to fill out the following little survey:
If there's enough interest, I'll set something up within the week. In the meantime, let me know what you guys think.
And I guess you can call me Nathaniel.
So there's a thing I've noticed, in the months I've been here. These anonymous posts, the ones asking for advice? They get a lot of answers. Seems we've got a lot of folks willing to help out around here, or at least to talk and commiserate, but it always seems to be a one-off deal; the person who's anonymous, most of us don't get to hear from them again, see how they're doing, and if we're anonymous ourselves, they can't contact us, either. It's like dancing some kind of intimate foxtrot and then never seeing your partner again.
But I found out something interesting. If you go to any Pokémon Center or PokéMart and tell them your Gear's broken or missing, they'll just hand you a new one free of charge. And if you happened to be lying, well. Then you've got an extra Gear unconnected to your main one.
What I'm saying is, there's an easy way to maintain privacy and anonymity on both ends while still checking in with someone you've spoken with before. Obviously, this is great to know for prank calls - and you're all welcome in advance for the April Fools idea - but I'd like to pose another option to those guys who want to help:
What if there were some kind of system in place for people to just talk about what's eating them multiple times with the same person, without ever having to know who's on the other line?
Now, I'm by no means a professional - not in this field, anyway. I'm not qualified to be a therapist and I haven't yet heard of anyone here who is. That's not what I'm suggesting we do here. But there are people willing to just listen, and to share their own experiences without judging, and that can be real useful to people who are working through tough things.
Here's how I'm imagining it'll work.
1. Folks who are interested in doing the listening contact me here by filling out the form at the bottom of this post. I vet them, and if it seems like it'll work out, then they grab an extra Gear, send me the number, and come up with their own codename.
2. I make a list of who's available and their numbers.
3. People looking to be listened to without exposing themselves, they contact me anonymously, and I'll redirect them to one of the folks on the list. After that first contact, they can just get to their listener directly without going through me as a middleman.
4. Conversation happens, everybody profits.
"But, mysterious and probably handsome anon," I hear you ask, "why do the people interested in helping have to out themselves to you? Who are YOU, even, to ask that and put yourself in charge of this whole thing?" And my answer is, there's got to be some accountability here when things this heavy and private are on the table, and I'm willing to be that guy. I'm also happy to reveal my identity privately to anyone who asks; I'm only maintaining anonymity here for those who don't want to know who they're talking to, for whom talking is easier like that.
Anyway. If listening to other people's problems sounds like your calling, I'd like you to fill out the following little survey:
If there's enough interest, I'll set something up within the week. In the meantime, let me know what you guys think.
And I guess you can call me Nathaniel.
[private text]
Date: 2016-03-21 11:31 pm (UTC)2. Age
522223. Do you have your own support network here? Yes
4. What sorts of things are you cool talking about? War (between gods, humans, or a combination of both), change of species,
not being able to die, being cursed, revenge (failed or successful), and whatever else comes up. I'm good at listening.5. What sorts of things are you NOT cool talking about? Family death
[private text]
Date: 2016-03-21 11:36 pm (UTC)This is a question I'm asking everybody, so don't think I'm singling you out or anything: How stable is your support network?
[private text]
Date: 2016-03-21 11:41 pm (UTC)More stable than anything I had when I first got here. Girlfriend and friends.
[private text]
Date: 2016-03-21 11:46 pm (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-03-21 11:57 pm (UTC)I did it just fine without a support network back home. At least I have one here.
[private text]
Date: 2016-03-22 12:00 am (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-03-22 12:13 am (UTC)Claire.
[Totally going with the legal name only two people in this place know. Yep, nothing will go wrong with that one.]
[private text]
Date: 2016-03-22 12:15 am (UTC)Claire, then. You need any help getting another Gear?
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Date: 2016-03-22 12:42 am (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-03-23 11:45 am (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-03-24 01:51 am (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-03-26 01:11 am (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-03-29 02:39 am (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-03-31 11:31 pm (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-04-01 07:27 pm (UTC)Survival.
There's many different names you can apply to it.
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Date: 2016-04-02 04:25 pm (UTC)We all do what we have to, to live with ourselves.
[private text]
Date: 2016-04-02 05:51 pm (UTC)A lesson I don't want any of the kids here to learn before they become adults.
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Date: 2016-04-02 06:16 pm (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-04-02 07:23 pm (UTC)World's with child soldiers. Who the hell thinks that's a good idea.
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Date: 2016-04-04 02:39 pm (UTC)[private text]
Date: 2016-04-04 08:00 pm (UTC)They may have been thinking that raising a child to be a soldier from the ground up would mean that they would have trained an entire generation to be obedient and lay down their lives for a cause they don't understand.
[private text]
Date: 2016-04-13 11:42 am (UTC)What do you do when you run into those kids here? Out of curiosity. We can swap notes.
[private text]
Date: 2016-04-14 11:43 pm (UTC)Depending on how much they can take care of themselves on their own, send them some things to aid them in getting to the next town.
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Date: 2016-04-16 06:10 pm (UTC)For me, the problem's that a lot of those kids don't know how to ask for help. Or realize they need it. It's hard to know when I'm overstepping my bounds.
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Date: 2016-03-27 04:08 am (UTC)EXCH△NGE